'The 4 Agreements' - Part 2 // Don't Take Anything Personally

Any negative comment or action projected onto you by another individual is simply a reflection of their own pain, struggle, jealousy and insecurities within themselves. 

The 2nd Agreement from the book “The 4 Agreements” by Don Miguel Ruiz is Don’t Take Anything Personally. Now obviously that is easier said than done. However once you are aware of the reasoning behind that agreement and start applying it to your life, you realize that all the negativity and wrong doings in the world are, at its core, a reflection of unresolved trauma, insecurities, and fear within the ones projecting the negativity. 

DISCLAIMER:  My writings are a reflection of what has helped me overcome MY personal hardships. I do not expect anyone to use my practices, I cannot guarantee what works for me will work for you. With that being said, I hope my writings can bring a sliver of value to your life. My ultimate goal is to help, and that is always in the back of my mind when I write. 

So exactly how does an individual not take anything personally? 

I believe one must first understand that at the core, everyone is more similar to each other than we are different. Once you start seeing yourself in everyone around you, you become more empathetic and more aware of the pain and suffering others might be enduring.

You start to realize that everyone around you is hurting in some way, shape or form. People are fragile and I’d argue that most people choose to ignore their pain, resulting in projecting their own shit onto others to make them feel better about themselves. 

For example: I find it ironic that all the “tough guys” of the world are the most insecure and self sabotaging people on earth. 

Unfortunately, it is not their fault, to an extent. Their circumstances and environment made them have the “tough guy” persona as a defense mechanism. They used it to hide their pain and suffering from the world. Because as we all know, the last thing a “tough guy” wants to do is look weak. 

Once I realized this concept and started applying the agreement (Don’t Take Anything Personally), my view on individuals changed drastically. I realized that no one is who they say they are. Everyone is hiding something, everyone is going through their own shit. Everyone is a victim to something. 

However, not everyone chooses to deal with their own shit in healthy ways. The people that don’t deal with their pain and suffering and insecurities are the weakest and most negative people in the world. They are victims to themselves. They are the ones that actually take things personally more than anyone else. 

To not take anything personally means to not let the opinions, comments, and negativity brought up in your life affect how you view yourself and your own little world. It is almost like having a force field around your world. No negative shit can penetrate it because you have the understanding that anyone trying to get under your skin is simply just trying to make themselves feel better. The ones projecting negativity onto others are the most broken people on earth, they are honestly the ones that need the most love. Because clearly they have a hard time loving themselves.  

With all that being said, I am fully aware that it is literally impossible to never take anything personally. But we can do our best. We can actively be aware of what we are putting out into the world and to other individuals. 

I think what I took away most from this agreement is that what you put out into the world is exactly what you will get back. You are simply a reflection of everyone else. We are all humans at the core. We are so similar to each other, it's ridiculous when you actually think about it. 

Be kind to people, you will receive kindness back. And when you cross paths with people who aren’t kind, simply acknowledge that their negativity is a reflection of how they feel about themselves and it has nothing to do with how they feel toward you or the situation. 

I gotta wrap this up, I’m trying to set time restrictions on these writings because if I don’t, I will be sitting here for hours trying to perfect every little detail. And your boy does not have time for that. I need to make that moneyyyyy. And as of right now, these blogs ain’t making me money lol. 

Thank you as always for taking the time to read this. I appreciate you so much.

Much love. Till next time


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