Taking 100% Responsibility

I try my best to DRILL this into my brain everyday.

Preface: My writings are a reflection of what has helped me overcome MY personal hardships. I do not expect anyone to use my practices, I cannot guarantee what works for me will work for you. With that being said, I hope my writings can bring a sliver of value to your life. My ultimate goal is to help, and that is always in the back of my head when I write. 

I believe that taking 100% responsibility over EVERYTHING is a superpower. Choosing to take the high road is not easy, however I have found that it is the only way I find inner peace.

When you take full responsibility over every situation and never blame others for anything, you unlock a new level of control over yourself and your surroundings that cannot be reached any other way. 

When you stop playing victim and you start self reflecting and asking yourself “how can I do better here?”, you become very powerful. 

To expand off this point, I believe it's important to have a true understanding that EVERYTHING is a choice. I will give an example from my life to hopefully paint a better picture.

I went to college thinking that I didn’t have a choice. I was under the influence and stigma of society that in order to be successful in this world, you need a degree. I blamed so many people and things for making me go to college KNOWING that it was the wrong decision for me and knowing that I would be miserable. I held a lot of resentment and anger during that process, which ultimately led me to being the most depressed I have ever been in my life. 

As my life has moved forward and after thousands of hours of self reflection, (for this example specifically) I realized that ultimately my decision to go to college was no one else's but mine. I did not stand up for myself when I should have, I did not take responsibility for my life when I should have, I did not prioritize my mental health when I should have. I based my decision to go to college over the opinions of others. I knew deep down in my heart that it was the wrong decision.

Once I took 100% responsibility over my thoughts and actions, I moved differently. I moved with grace and confidence. Even though I am not perfect, I have a deep understanding that in order for me to be 100% confident in myself, I need to take responsibility for every situation I put myself in. My life is my fight, I do not seek pity from anyone, I do not want anyone to feel sorry for me. I want to move forward at all times, no matter what life throws at me. 

Tying it back to my last blog post, playing victim will never, ever lead you to peace of mind. My peace of mind comes from taking 100% responsibility at all times. I am the only one in control of my life. 

Even during the darkest of times, you can choose to sulk in your emotions and seek pity or you can choose to pick your head up and improve yourself and learn from your mistakes. That is something I am working on daily. I am not perfect and I know I will never be perfect. We can all do better, and we can all be more grateful. I am grateful for you. I am grateful that you took time out of your day to read this. I love you for that, truly. And I hope today, you can move with grace and confidence, knowing that you are in control and you have the power to make change in your life if that is what you desire.

Thank you for reading, see you on the flip side


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