Complacency KILLS Growth

I am no stranger to complacency.

Through the many trials and tribulations trying to find ways to manage the stresses that affect MY life (everyone has different stresses), I have noticed that whenever I become complacent, I am at my most vulnerable and I feel the weakest.

On the contrary, whenever I am continuously pushing my limits and eager to grow, I am the most confident and comfortable version of myself. 

To introduce myself for you, my name is Kellan. I have struggled with heavy mental health setbacks my whole life. Crippling anxiety, depression and ADHD for as long as I can remember. I will not get into details about my life story today, but just take my word for it that I have had my fair share of difficulties. I live and breathe the importance of mental health because I know how dark my darkest times were, and I never want anyone to feel the way I did. 

Please proceed reading with an open mind, and understand that everything I say comes from a place of love and determination to escape the generational bullshit we find our society dealing with everyday (regarding the lack of mental health education and ignorance of past generations).

For those of you who know me on a personal level, you know I advocate for mental health education above everything; but more importantly the APPLICATION of skills you must put into practice on a daily basis to manage (not eliminate) one's own “mental health issues”.

I don’t feel the need to establish my credibility regarding my own struggles, however I know there are some ignorant fucks out there that would say “you don’t know me… you don’t know what I stuggle with… it’s easy for you to say… I can’t control my anxiety… I can’t control my depression” blah blah blah… a bunch of weak excuses if you ask me (please remember, I am allowed to say this because I was once that weak person making every excuse in the book because I didn’t want to face my own demons).

It seems like damn near everyone these days is a victim of something. And to me, all that shows is people don’t want to put in the work to deal with their own shit. People seek pity and attention and will do everything under the sun BESIDES take the necessary steps to start healing and dealing with their “issues” (HEALING and DEALING - you like that? I’m putting that on a T-shirt).

SIDE NOTE: a victim mentality is the single most detrimental thing anyone can do to oneself. You are not helping yourself, and you are not willing to accept help from others when you act like a victim all the time. I will cover this topic more in depth in a future blog post, but for now, suck it up buttercup. Life is difficult. You aren’t the only one struggling. There is a lot you can’t control, I am FULLY aware of that. However, there is also a shit ton you can control. Pick your head up and stop feeling sorry for yourself, you can do this. I believe in you and I truly mean that. I believe in anyone that's willing and eager to help themselves.

I don’t want to make these blog posts too long, and I truthfully don’t want to write and edit to perfection every time, because that kills the organic nature in which I’d like these to be. 

Reading this back, I can understand how it may seem all over the place. However, that is just how my brain flowed with the topic of “Complacency KILLS Growth” in mind. I hope you enjoy this. Much love, and remember to never settle for anything less than you deserve. And you deserve the world, whether you want to believe it or not. Don’t get complacent because it will truly kill your growth as a human. 

If you are a part of my generation (GEN Z), this message is specifically for you: We have an opportunity to make history as the first generation to prioritize the importance of mental health. Unfortunately, it has been proven time and time again that the older generations are too set in their ways to truly make a difference regarding this. We HAVE to step up. The next generations will be looking up to us. We cannot afford to let the next generation suffer in the same way the older generations allowed us to suffer. It’s time to take control, WE are in the driver's seat now. No more allowing weak minded people to control our lives. Step up and be better FOR YOURSELF, but more importantly, move in a way that would make the next generation proud. We need more role models, we don’t need more ignorant, victim minded, weak individuals. We need more people that can stand in the fire calmly. We don’t need more people that fold under pressure. 

A message to the older generations: 

With all due respect, step aside and let us fix the problems you left us with. Let us fix the unresolved, unhealed trauma you've passed onto us. If you want to be apart of the solution to the mental health crisis you've created for us, swallow your ego and open your eyes and ears. LEAD BY EXAMPLE AND PRACTICE WHAT YOU FUCKING PREACH - if you have a closed mind and are consciously choosing to stay complacent, please leave my generation the fuck alone and let us live our life how we want to live it. 

ANOTHER SIDE NOTE: I am very aware that there are good and bad people in ALL generations. I am generalizing to make a point. I understand what I write about is not applicable to everyone, take it as you wish. Above everything, BE KIND and TOGETHER we can change how the world learns/educates/manages mental health setbacks. 

See you on the flip side, 



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Hey Kellen, I’d love to talk to you about mental health awareness sometime. I think a lot of what you’re saying here is actually doing the opposite of what you want it to be. Ironically, statements like, “a bunch of weak excuses if you ask me” and “It seems like damn near everyone these days is a victim of something” are the exact type of compassionless statements that older generations have used to downplay the severity of mental health. I appreciate your drive, but I think you need to re-examine your mindset here.

Collin O'Connor

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